gerryodonnellcelebrant

Celebrating the major events of life

Readings, Poems and Prayers

 

 

 

POEMS

 

 

POEM 1.

These Are the Key to a Loving, Lasting Relationship – Author Unknown

Enjoy! Love one another with all your hearts

Give more than you take.

Don’t ever take your relationship for granted.

Have heart to heart talks and really communicate.

Be trusting, playful, intimate and kind.

Appreciate all the little, special things.

Recognise that time spent together is a treasure.

Make the most of what each day brings.

Know that nothing is sweeter than the warmth of one hand within another.

Walk together in the direction you want to go.

Be supportive and sharing and open to change.

Always continue to grow.

Cherish the blessing which so few truly find.

Have dreams to reach out for through the years.

Share one another’s smiles through the good times.

Be everything to one another through the tears.

What your time together lack in quantity, make up for with quality.

Call to say “I love You” in the middle of the day.

Keep your sense of humour and hold on to your hopes.

Don’t let work or worries get in the way.

Make love a sanctuary and a celebration.

Make each moment more precious and each season more glad.

Realise how lucky you are to be two together.

And make the best memories any two people ever had.

 

 

POEM 2

The Secret of a Beautiful Marriage – Author Unknown

If you can love each other

Through the sunshine and the storm,

And keep the flame of true devotion

Glowing bright and warm;

If you can give each other room

To grow and change and learn,

Yet still hold one another close in mutual concern;

If you can be both lovers

And the very best of friends,

And face together, hand in hand,

The challenges life sends….

If you can offer patience, comfort and real understanding,

Encourage one another’s efforts,

Yet be undemanding;

If you can show true love and faith
in everything you do,

Then married life will surely hold
much joy for both of you.

 

POEM 3

Unknown title – Regina Hill

When two people join together and bond their lives forever

Because they are certain they have something special

That will make their commitment last…

This is the first act of faith.

Upon this act of faith these two people will build a life.

And as long as their determination stays with them

This life will always be their hope, their dreams, their truth, their being, their inspiration,

and their source of strength.

Through their life together, they will hurt and laugh.

Together they will feel all of life’s up and downs.

They will learn and grow through trial and error.

The lessons will show them the meaning of true love

And the difference between a love that lasts

and one that just gives up.

These two people will face each failure together and

discover the strength to go on.

They will encourage each other’s dreams and forgive each other’s faults.

Through a labour of love. these two will become as one,

Fighting against the odds and ultimately creating a commitment that will grow into an infinite love.

 

 

 

POEM 4

I Love You – Author Unknown

I love you not only for what you are,

But for what I am when I am with you

 

I love you not only for what you have made of yourself

But for what you are making me

 

I love you for the part of me that you bring out.

 

I love you for passing over all my foolish and weak traits,

That you can’t help but see

 

I love you for drawing out into the light my beauty,

That no one else had looked quite far enough to din

 

I love you.

 

POEM 5

A Tapestry of Love – Author Unknown

Just as two very different threads woven in opposite directions can form a beautiful tapestry,

So can your two lives merge together to form a beautiful marriage.

To make your marriage work will take love.

 

Love should be the core of your marriage;

Love is the reason you are here.

But it will also take trust – to know in your hearts

 

You want the best for each other.

It will take dedication – to stay open to one another;

 

To learn and to grow together even when this is not so easy to do.

It will take faith – to always be willing to go forward to tomorrow,

never really knowing what tomorrow will bring.

 

And it will take commitment – to hold true to a journey you both now will share together.

 

POEM 6

Reading

You share today the joy of a deep commitment

And a sacred trust, you have given each other

The most precious gift of love

 

Treasure it, nurture it and encourage it

With all the honesty you used in creating it

 

You are sharing something rare and beautiful

Always speak the truth and listen attentively

So that you may understand each others thoughts and intentions

 

Inspire each other by sharing your accomplishments

Say I love you often to retain the warmth between you

 

Laugh a lot too, even when you are angry

Remember you are each other’s best friend

 

Stand together and for each other always

May each day be a blessing and the fulfillment of your dreams.

 

 

POEM 7

The Colour of My Love – David foster and Arthur Janov

I’ll paint a sun to warm your heart

Knowing that we’ll never part

 

I’ll draw the years all passing by

So much to learn so much to try

 

I’ll paint my mood in shades of blue

Paint my soul to be with you

 

I’ll sketch your lips in shaded tones

Draw your mouth to my own

 

I’ll trace a hand to wipe your tears

A trace a look to calm your fears

 

A silhouette of dark and light

To hold each other oh so tight

 

I’ll paint the stars in the evening sky

Draw the light into your eyes

 

A touch of love, a touch of grave,

To softly fall on your moonlit face

 

And with this ring our lives will start

Let nothing ever keep our love apart

 

I’ll take your hand to hold in mine

And be together through all time.

POEM 8

From A Navajo Wedding Ceremony

Now you have lit a fire and that fire should not go out.

The two of you now have a fire that represents love,

Understanding and a philosophy of life.

It will give you heat, food, warmth and happiness.

The new fire represents a new beginning – a new life and a new family.

The fire should keep burning; you should stay together.

You have lit the fire for life, until old age separates you.

POEM 9

Friendship

It is often said that it is love that makes the world go round.

However, without doubt, it is friendship which keeps our spinning existence on an even keel.

 

True friendship provides so many of the essentials for a happy life

It is the foundation on which to build an enduring relationship,

It is the mortar which bonds us together in harmony,

And it is the calm, warm protection we sometimes need when the world outside

seems cold and chaotic.

 

True friendship holds a mirror to our foibles and failings,

without destroying our sense of worthiness.

True friendship nurtures our hopes, supports us in our disappointments,

and encourages us to grow to our best potential.

 

This couple came together as friends, they pledge to each other not only their love but also the strength, warmth and, most importantly, the fun of true friendship.

 

POEM 10

Song written by Daniel Handler of The Magnetic Fields

Asleep and Dreaming

I’ve seen you laugh at nothing at all

I’ve seen you sadly weeping

 

The sweetest thing I ever saw

was you asleep and dreaming

 

I’ve seen you when your ship came in

And when your train was leaving

 

The sweetest thing I ever saw

was you asleep and dreaming

 

Well you may not be beautiful

But it’s not for me to judge

 

I don’t know if you’re beautiful

Because I love you too much……

 

POEM 11

FROM THE SANSKRIT

Look to this day for it is life

The very life of life in its brief course

lie all the varieties and realities of your existence

The bliss of growth

The glory of action

The splendor of beauty

For yesterday is already a dream

And tomorrow is only a vision

But today, well lived, makes every yesterday a dream of happiness

And every tomorrow a vision of hope

Look well, therefore, to this day.

 

 

POEM 12

From The Prophet, Kahlil Gibran

Love has no other desire but to fulfil itself.

But if you love and must needs have desires, let here be your desires:

To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.

To know the pain of too much tenderness.

To be wounded by your own understanding of love;

And to bleed willingly and joyfully.

To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;

To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;

To return home at eventide with gratitude;

And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart

And a song of praise upon your lips.

 

 

POEM 13

Marriage Prophecy from The Prophet
by Kahlil Gibran

Then Almitra spoke again and said, And what of Marriage, master?

And he answered saying: You were born together, and together you shall be for evermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your clays.

Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness.

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love.

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone through they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.

For only the hand of life can contain your hearts and stand together but not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

 

 

POEM 14

An excerpt from “The Prophet – By Khalil Gabran

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.

Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness,

And let the winds of heavens dance between you.

 

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

 

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

shadow.

 

 

POEM 15

Excerpt From “The Prophet”- By Kahlil Gilbran

Your friend is your needs answered. He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving. And he is your board and your fireside. For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace.

When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the “nay” in your own mind, nor do you with hold the “aye.” And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart; For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unclaimed.

When you part from your friend, you grieve not; for that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.

And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit. For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth; and only the unprofitable is caught.

And let your best be for your friend. If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also. For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill? Seek him always with hours to live. For it is his to fill your need, but not your emptiness. And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.

 

 

POEM 16

Speak To Us of Love – From The Prophet By Kahlil Gilbran

Then said Almitra, Speak to us of Love.

And he raised his head and looked upon the people, and there fell a stillness upon them. And with a great voice he said: When love beckons to you, follow him, Though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you yield to him, Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when he speaks to you believe in him, Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.

For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning. Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth. Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself. He threshes you to make you naked. He sifts you to free you from your husks. He grinds you to whiteness. He kneads you until you are pliant; And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God’s sacred feast.

All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart.

But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure, Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor, Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself. Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; For love is sufficient unto love.

When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am in the heart of God.” And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.

Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself. But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:

To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.

To know the pain of too much tenderness.

To be wounded by your own understanding of love;

And to bleed willingly and joyfully.

To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;

To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;

To return home at eventide with gratitude;

And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.

 

POEM 17

The Symposium – By Plato

Our original nature was by no means the same as it is now. There was a kind composed of both sexes and sharing equally in male and female. The form of each person was round all over; each had four arms, and legs to match these, and two faces perfectly alike. The creature walked upright, and whenever it started running fast, it went like our acrobats, whirling over and over with legs stuck out straight, swiftly round and round.

 

Now they were so lofty in their notions that they even conspired against the gods. Thereat Zeus and the other gods were perplexed; for they felt they could not slay them, nor could they endure such sinful rioting. Then Zeus said “Methinks I can contrive that men shall give over their iniquity through a lessening of their strength.” So saying, he sliced each human being in two. Now when our first form had been cut in two, each half in longing for his fellow would come to it again; and then would they fling their arms about each other and in mutual embraces yearn to be grafted together. Thus anciently is mutual love ingrained in man kind.

 

Well, when one happens on his own particular half, the two of them are wondrously thrilled with affection and intimacy and love, and are hardly to be induced to leave each other’s side for a single moment. These are they who continue together throughout life. No one could imagine this to be the mere amorous connection: obviously the soul of each is wishing for something else that it cannot express. Suppose that Hephaestus should ask “Do you desire to be joined in the closest possible union, that so long as you live, the pair of you, being as one, may share a single life?” Each would unreservedly deem that he had been offered just what he was yearning for all the time.

 

The craving and pursuit of that entirety is called Love. If we make friends with the god and are reconciled, we shall have the fortune that falls to few in our day of discovering our proper favorites. Love is the god who brings this about; he fully deserves our hymns. If we will supply the gods with reverent duty, he will restore us to our ancient life and heal and help us into the happiness of the blest.

 

POEM 18

Loving You by Larry S. Chengges.

Your love is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

It has given my life new priorities and meaning and filled it with joy.

Thank you for giving so much of yourself and for helping me to

discover so much about myself too.

Sometimes I think you know me better than I know myself.

When we are together love feels so right with you

And I miss you so much when we are apart.

I’ll always be there for you and together I know we can make our dreams come true.”

 

 

 

POEM 19

Blessing for a Marriage by James Dillet Freeman

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.

May you always need one another – not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness.

May you need one another, but not out of weakness.

May you want one another, but not out of lack.

May you entice, but not compel one another.

May you embrace, but not encircle one another.

May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.

May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!”

and take no notice of small faults.

If you have quarrels that push you apart,

may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.

May you enter into the mystery, which is the awareness of one another’s presence

no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side,

and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.

May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.

May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.

 

 

POEM 20

Love Sonnet No 91 by William Shakespeare

Some glory in their birth, some in their skill,

Some in their wealth, some in their body’s force,

Some in their garments (though new-fangled ill),

Some in their hawks and hounds,

Some in their horse; And every humour hath his adjunct pleasure,

Wherein it finds a joy above the rest. But these particulars are not my measure:

All these I better in one general best. Thy love is better than high birth to me,

Richer than wealth, prouder than garments’ cost,

Of more delight than hawks or horses be;

And having thee of all men’s pride I boast – Wretched in this alone, that thou mayst take

All this away, and me most wretched make.

 

 

POEM 21

‘November’ – F.S. Flint

What is eternal of you

I saw in both your eyes.

You were among the apple branches;

the sun shone, and it was November.

Sun and apples and laughter

and love we gathered, you and I.

And the birds were singing.

 

 

 

POEM 22

Sonnet from the Portuguese, XLIII – By Elizabeth Barrett Browning

How do I love thee?

Let me count the ways.

I love thee to the depth and breadth and height

My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight

For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.

I love thee to the level of everyday’s

Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.

I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;

I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.

I love thee with the passion put to use

In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.

I love thee with a love I seemed to lose

With my lost saints, – I love thee with the breath,

Smiles, tears, of all my life! – and, if God choose,

I shall but love thee better after death.

 

 

POEM 23

The Confirmation by Edwin Muir (Scottish Poet) 1887-1959

Yes, yours, my love, is the right human face.

I, in my mind, had waited for this long.

Seeing the false and searching for the true,

Then found you as a traveller finds a place

Of welcome suddenly amid the wrong

Valleys and rocks and twisting roads.

 

But you, What shall I call you?

A fountain in a waste, A well of water in a country dry,

Or anything that’s honest and good,

An eye
that makes the whole world bright.

Your open heart, Simple with giving, gives the primal deed,

 

The first good world, the blossom, the blowing seed

The hearth, the steadfast land, the wandering sea,

Not beautiful or rare in every part,

But like yourself, as they were meant to be.

POEM 24

To Chloe – William Cartwright

There are two births; the one when light

First strikes the new awaken´d sense;

The other when two souls unite,

And we must count our life from thence:

When you loved me and I loved you

Then both of us were born anew.

Love then to us new souls did give

And in those souls did plant new powers;

Since when another life we live,

The breath we breathe is his, not ours:

Love makes those young whom age doth chill,

And whom he finds young keeps young still.

 

 

 

POEM 25

Leap into the void – Yves Klein 1957

Come with me into the void

If you return one day

You who, like me dream,

 

Of that wonderful void

That absolute love

I know that together

Without needing to say a single word to each other

 

We will leap

Into the reality of that void

That awaits our love

The way I wait for you every day

 

Come with me into the void

 

 

 

 

 

POEM 26

O My Luve’s Like a Red, Red Rose – Robert Burns

My luve´s like a red, red rose, that´s newly sprung in June.

O, my Luve´s like the melodie, that´s sweetly play´d in tune.

As fair art thou, my bonie lass, so deep in luve am I,

And I will luve thee still, my dear, till a´ the seas gang dry.

 

Till a´ the seas gang dry, my dear, and the rocks melt wi´ the sun!

And I will luve thee still, my dear, while the sands o´ life shall run.

 

And fare thee weel, my only luve,

And fare thee weel a while!

And I will come again, my luve,

Tho´ it were ten thousand mile!

 

 

POEM 27

TITLE UNKNOWN – By Carl Sandburg

I love you for what you are, but I love you yet more for what you are going to be.

I love you not so much for your realities as for your ideals.

 

I pray for your desires that they may be great, rather than for your satisfactions,

which may be so hazardously little. A satisfied flower is one whose petals are about to fall.

The most beautiful rose is one hardly more than a bud wherein the pangs and ecstasies of desire are working for a larger and finer growth.

 

Not always shall you be what you are now.

You are going forward toward something great.

 

I am on the way with you and therefore I love you.

 

 

POEM 28

UNTITLED – Author Unknown

You can give without loving,

but you can never love without giving.

 

The great acts of love are done by those

who are habitually performing small acts of kindness.

 

We pardon to the extent that we love.

Love is knowing that even when you are alone,

you will never be lonely again.

And great happiness of life is the conviction

that we are loved.

 

Loved for ourselves.

And even loved in spite of ourselves

POEM 29

UNTITLED – Author Unknown

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind

yourselves often of what brought you together.

Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and

kindness that your connection deserves.

When frustration, difficult and fear assail your relationship

as they threaten all relationships at one time or another,

Remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong.

In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there.

And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together,

it will be marked by abundance and delight.”

 

POEM 30

What is Love? – Author Unknown

Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more

than verses on valentines and romance in the movies.

 

We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true,

the most important thing in our lives.

 

For love is the creator of our favourite memories and

the foundation of our fondest dreams.

 

Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent,

a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places.

 

And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy,

is the greatest treasure of all – one known only by those who love.

 

 

POEM 31

A New Biography : Heloise and Abelard

“Know indeed that the midday sun has risen for you,

that the chorus of birds is rejoicing over your health…

And look too how, now that this slight snow has melted,

all things flourish again, the seasons will smile on them

and by the grace of God there will be for us a not unfamiliar joy.” (Heloise)

“Physicists say often that the moon does not shine without the sun,

and that when deprived of this light, it is robbed of all benefit of heat

and brightness and presents to humans a dark ashen sphere.” (Abelard)

“To half my heart and part of my soul: what I am I entrust to you.

I am yours as long as I live…” (Heloise)

 

POEM 32

Oh the Places You’ll Go – Dr Seuss

Congratulations!

Today is your day.

You’re off to Great Places!

You’re off and away! You have brains in your head.

You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.

You’re on your own. And you know what you know.

And YOU are the couple who’ll decide where to go.

You’ll look up and down streets. Look ‘em over with care.

About some you will say, “We don’t choose to go there.”

With your heads full of brains and your shoes full of feet, you’re too smart to go down, any not-so-good street.

And you may not find any you’ll want to go down.

In that case, of course, you’ll head straight out of town.

It’s opener there in the wide open air, out there things can happen and frequently do

to people as brainy and footsy as you.

And when things start to happen, don’t worry. Don’t stew.

Just go right along. You’ll start happening too.

 

OH! THE PLACES YOU’LL GO!

 

You’ll be on your way up!

You’ll be seeing great sights!

You’ll join the high fliers who soar to great heights!

You won’t lag behind, because you’ll have all the speed.

You’ll pass the whole gang, and you’ll soon take the lead.

 

Wherever you fly you’ll be best of the best.

Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don’t because sometimes, you won’t.

You’ll get mixed up of course, as you already know.

You’ll get mixed up with so many strange birds as you go.

So be sure when you step, step with great care and great tact and remember

that Life’s a Great Balancing Act.

Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.

And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?

Yes! You will indeed! (98 and ¾ percent guaranteed.)

 

KIDS, YOU’LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!

So, be your name Buxbaum or Dowrie or Bass

or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O’Shea,

you’re off to great places!

Today is your day!

Your mountain is waiting.

So … get on your way!

 

POEM 33

In Midsummer a Wedding, by Arnold Kenseth

Now in midsummer a wedding.

Attend. Applaud.

The music must be played lightly,

 

Quietly, at first, like July birdsongs

Hidden in thickets, like sun drying out

The mornings, like grass browsing, dreaming.

Then the words: this man, protecting, serving,

 

Believing; and this woman, favouring, Giving, hoping.

This family arriving.

 

Let the music accentuate, arise, float.

Dearly beloved, very dearly beloved,

This act praises and extends us all, as if,

In the afternoon airs, we are all made Family, as if we are all sun, grass, dreaming.

Now, bells, astound! Ring out aloud, aloft!

 

 

POEM 34

From “Gift From The Sea” by Anne Morrow Lindbergh

“When you love someone, you do not love them all the time,

in exactly the same way, from moment to moment.

 

It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to.

And yet this is exactly what most of us demand.

 

We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships.

We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb.

We are afraid it will never return.

We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity;

when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity –

 

In freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free,

barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting,

not in hoping, even.

 

Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia,

nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation,

but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now.

 

Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now,

within their limits – islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea,

and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.”

 

POEM 35

Scottish Wedding Prayer

Lord help us to remember when

We first met and the strong love that grew between us.

 

To work that love into practical things so that nothing

can divide us.

We ask for words both kind and loving and hearts always

ready to ask forgiveness as well as to forgive.

 

Dear Lord, we put our marriage into your hands

 

 

POEM 36

An Irish Wedding Blessing

You are the star of each night,

You are the brightness of every morning,

You are the story of each guest,

You are the report of every land.

 

No evil shall befall you, on hill nor bank,

In field or valley, on mountain or in glen.

Neither above, nor below, neither in sea,

Nor on shore, in skies above,

Nor in the depths.

 

You are the kernel of my heart,

You are the face of my sun,

You are the harp of my music,

You are the crown of my company

 

 

POEM 37

Marriage – By Mary Weston Fordham

The die is cast, come weal, come woe,

Two lives are joined together,

 

For better or for worse, the link

Which naught but death can sever.

 

The die is cast, come grief, come joy

Come richer, or come poorer,

 

If love but binds the mystic tie,

Blest is the bridal hour.

 

 

POEM 38

When I Am With You” by Rumi

When I am with you, we stay up all night.

When you’re not here, I can’t go to sleep.

 

Praise God for these two insomnias!

And the difference between them.

The minute I heard my first love story

I started looking for you, not knowing

how blind that was.

 

Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.

They’re in each other all along.

We are the mirror as well as the face in it.

We are tasting the taste this minute

of eternity.

We are pain and what cures pain, both.

We are the sweet cold water and the jar that pours.

 

I want to hold you close like a lute, so we can cry out with loving.

 

You would rather throw stones at a mirror?

I am your mirror, and here are the stones.

 

 

POEM 39

Giving My Heart – By Catherine Bloggs

First time we met,

We smiled laughed and played,

By the big Oak Tree in the back,

 

A kindergarten friendship we made.

It lasted for years,

Through all of the school life,

Laughs and smiles,

Fights and tears.

 

And now we know,

We are never apart,

If I did anything right,

In life…

It was giving YOU my heart.

 

 

POEM 40

The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.

I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

 

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.

I want to know if you are willing to look like a fool for love,

for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

 

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.

I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow,

if you have been opened by life’s betrayals,

or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.

 

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own,

without moving to hide it, fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own,

if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, remember the limitations of being human.

 

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.

I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself.

If you can bear the accusation of betrayal, and not betray your own soul.

If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

 

I want to know if you can see Beauty, even when it’s not pretty, everyday.

And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine and still stand at the edge of the lake – and shout to the silver of the full moon,

“Yes!”

 

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.

I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair,

weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

 

It doesn’t interest me who you know, or how you came to be here.

I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

 

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.

I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself

and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

 

POEM 41

To Love is Not to Possess –  By James Kavanaugh

To love is not to possess,

To own or imprison,

Nor to lose one’s self in another.

 

Love is to join and separate,

To walk alone and together,

To find a laughing freedom

That lonely isolation does not permit.

It is finally to be able

To be who we really are

No longer clinging in childish dependency

Nor docilely living separate lives in silence,

 

It is to be perfectly one’s self

And perfectly joined in permanent commitment

To another–and to one’s inner self.

Love only endures when it moves like waves,

Receding and returning gently or passionately,

 

Or moving lovingly like the tide

In the moon’s own predictable harmony,

Because finally, despite a child’s scars

 

Or an adult’s deepest wounds,

They are openly free to be

Who they really are–and always secretly were,

In the very core of their being

Where true and lasting love can alone abide.

 

 

POEM 42

A Little Piece Of Love – Tyler Wickham

From the first day I met you,

I knew it was true.

 

That some day I would fall in love with you.

That time has come to say I DO.

All I can think about is being with you.

 

You’ve made me better in my path of life

So in return will you be my wife?

 

 

POEM 43

Forever- By Jim Contarino

You’re so special more than you know and more than I show.

You’re my soul mate, you’re my lover, you’re all that I know.

 

It’s your smile and it’s your eyes it’s your heart and it’s your cries.

I’ll love you forever even long after we die.

 

You’re my friend and you’re my life.

You’re my light and you’re my wife.

You’re my shoulder and my strength.

 

I would die for you and go to any length.

You’re the person I need and the one who is there.

I have you right now and it doesn’t seem fair.

Cause right now isn’t enough and forever is too soon.

Without you I would die and not know what to do.

 

You’re more than a friend and more than a wife too.

You’re my forever and forever isn’t long enough for me and you.

 

There’s a place in heaven waiting just for you.

I pray there is room right there beside you for me too.

 

You’re a beautiful soul and I could forget you never.

I just pray that we are always together now and forever.

 

 

POEM 44

A New Beginning – Gwen Frostic

On this earth there is a oneness

A rhythmic flow through everything that lives

 

The things with roots and stems and leaves

The things with shells and fins and furs

The things with wings with which to fly

The things that crwal and those that walk

 

Each thing must eat and breath and rest

Each thing must seek and each is sought for

Each has a birth, a purpose to fulfill

To each an end and then a new beginning.

 

 

POEM 45

I Promise – By Danny Blackburn

I Promise

To take time for you and pursue you passionately

And I promise to love you compassionately

 

I do seek to understand your needs so deeply

And I promise each day to love you so completely

I will provide a home of love and emotional purity

And I promise love, laughter, honesty and a life where you feel security

 

I will make time for you, for without you I have no time

And I promise you to cherish, honor, respect, admire and be kind

Time may take us down a path where you need to be taken care of

And I promise to hold you, clean you and continue to admire you with love

 

If life places pain in your heart I will be there to fill it with love

And I promise each day to pray for our health and happiness from God above

I will awaken each day to see your sweet smile and feel your touch

And I promise to bring you happiness and laughter, I love you so much

 

I will be there for you each day of my life

And I promise to make you happy for you are my wife

 

I give you my heart, I love you girl that can’t you see

And I promise to you to be very attentive and caring indeed

 

I have ran for miles swearing my love to you for life

And I promise to God to honor you, my beautiful wife

 

I Love you

 

POEM 46

Dove Poem – Author Unknown

Two doves meeting in the sky

Two loves hand in hand eye to eye

Two parts of a loving whole

Two hearts and a single soul

 

Two stars shining big and bright

Two fires bringing warmth and light

Two songs played in perfect tune

Two flowers growing into bloom

 

Two Doves gliding in the air

Two loves free without a care

Two parts of a loving whole

Two hearts and a single soul

 

POEM 47

When Love Begins – By Florence

I always knew that love would come find me someday

but never did I know that it would be you who was headed my way

 

You caught me off guard and took me by surprise

but you simply captivated me, the same way you do when I look into your eyes

 

It’s true that every good and perfect gift is from above

you were presented to me as a beautifully packaged gift full of humor, talent, intelligence,

beauty and love

“it isn’t finding the perfect person but learning to see an imperfect person perfectly”

we all have our flaws but when I view you through my eyes, perfection is all I see

 

From when you laugh to when you’re upset, I still love the little things you do

Especially hearing you laugh and seeing your nose wrinkle the same way mine does too

 

Coming into this relationship has been hard at times but we’ve made it through

I know as long as we’re on this journey together, there’s nothing that we can’t do.

 

Sometimes I wonder if what we have is too good to be true

Too scared to get my heart broken and scared of the thought of losing you

but in the end, I trust in the author and perfecter of what I believe

because what we ask for in Him, we in return shall receive

 

“Where your treasure is, your heart will be also” is how the saying goes

I may not know what tomorrow may bring, for God is the only one who knows

The one thing I do know is that you are my one and only

A treasure in my heart that I want to devote my whole life to completely

 

I know I don’t need to prove my feelings to know they’re true

because what I’ve known in my past, doesn’t come close to the experience I’ve shared with you

 

I’ve had the experience of being in relationships before

however, this is the first time I’ve been truly happy… I couldn’t ask for anything more

It’s an honour to know that I am yours, as you are mine

and I trust God that He’ll bring us together in His beautiful time

 

For now, I’ll be waiting patiently for that day when we’ll be together

that precious moment in time when I’ll say, “it’s you that I want to be with forever”

 

God made everything beautiful, precious and new

just as beautiful and precious as the day will be,

when I look into your eyes and say, “I Love You”

 

 

POEM 48

Fidelity – Dorothy Colgan

Man and woman are like the earth, that brings forth flowers

in summer, and love, but underneath is rock.

 

Older than flowers, older than ferns, older than foraminiferae,

older than plasm altogether is the soul underneath.

 

And when, throughout all the wild chaos of love

slowly a gem forms, in the ancient, once-more-molten rocks

of two human hearts, two ancient rocks,

A man’s heart and a woman’s,

that is the crystal of peace, the slow hard jewel of trust,

The sapphire of fidelity.

The gem of mutual peace emerging from the wild chaos of love

 

 

POEM 49

HOPE IS THE THING WITH FEATHERS – By Emily Dickenson

Hope is the thing with feathers

That perches in the soul,

And sings the tune without the words,

And never stops at all,

 

And sweetest in the gale is heard;

And sore must be the storm

That could abash the little bird

That kept so many warm.

 

I’ve heard it in the chilliest land,

And on the strangest sea;

Yet, never, in extremity

It asked a crumb of me.

 

POEM 50

My True Love – Sir Phillip Sydney

My true love hath my heart and I have his,

By just exchange one for another given

I hold his dear, and mine he cannot miss,

There never was a better bargain driven

My true love hath my heart and I have his.

 

His heart in me keeps him and me in one,

My heart in him his thoughts and senses guides

He loves my heart, for once it was his own,

I cherish his because in me it bides

My true love hath my heart and I have his.

POEM 51

Bridal Song – John Ford

Comforts lasting, loves increasing,

Like soft hours never ceasing:

 

Plenty’s pleasure, peace complying,

Without jars, or tongues envying;

Hearts by holy union wedded,

 

More than theirs by custom bedded;

Fruitful issues; life so graced,

Not by age to be defaced,

 

Budding, as the year ensu’th,

Every spring another youth:

 

All what thought can add beside

Crown this bridegroom and this bride!

 

 

POEM 52

Love’s Philosophy By Percy Bysshe Shelley

The fountains mingle with the river,

And the rivers with the ocean;

The winds of heaven mix forever

With a sweet emotion;

 

Nothing in the world is single:

All things by a law divine

In another’s being mingle–

Why not I with thine?

 

POEM 53

If Thou Must Love Me – Elizabeth Barrett Browning

If thou must love me, let it be for naught

Except for love’s sake only. Do not say,

‘I love her for her smile – her look – her way

Of speaking gently,- for a trick of thought

That falls in well with mine, and certes brought

A sense of pleasant ease on such a day’ –

For these things in themselves, Beloved, may

Be changed, or change for thee – and love, so wrought,

May be unwrought so.

Neither love me for Thine own dear pity’s wiping my cheeks dry:

A creature might forget to weep, who bore

Thy comfort long, and lose thy love thereby!

But love me for love’s sake, that evermore

Thou mayst love on, through love’s eternity.

 

 

POEM 54

The Secrets Of A Good Marriage – Ellie Keisch

Growing up I’ve learnt about love,

I’ve been surrounded by it everyday.

I’m so glad you’ve both found it,

And it’s why we’re here today.

 

They say there’s secrets to a good marriage,

That there are rules to obey,

But the most important rules of love,

Are what you two do everyday.

 

It’s the ”hey babes” in the morning,

It’s how she makes his tea,

It’s the way he smiles at her,

Such a sweet thing to see.

 

It’s never being to old to hold hands,

Or to watch movies on the couch,

It’s accepting all the flaws,

Even when the other’s a grouch.

 

It’s telling him he’s not going grey,

It’s the”You look fine in those jeans”

It’s ignoring the mid-life crisis,

and all her little ”scenes”.

 

It’s facing the world as one,

And it’s more than love at first sight,

It’s together being a family,

Each and every day and night.

 

It’s the way he looks into her eyes,

It’s the way that she looks too,

It’s why they stand before us,

and it’s why they said ”I do”.

 

And now I stand here today,

On this important moment in life,

With two people very in love,

Now husband and wife.

 

Growing up, I’ve learnt about love,

and seeing it today proves it true,

You’ve both taught me so much,

And I’d be lucky to be half as happy as you

 

 

 

POEM 55

In Love Made Visible – By Mary Swenson

In love are we made visible

As in a magic bath are unpeeled

to the sharp pit so long concealed

 

With love’s alertness we recognize

the soundless whimper of the soul

behind the eyes A shaft opens

and the timid thing at last leaps to surface

with full-spread wing

 

The fingertips of love discover

more than the body’s smoothness

They uncover a hidden conduit

for the transfusion of empathies that circumvent

the mind’s intrusion

 

In love we are set free

Objective bone and flesh no longer insulate us

to ourselves alone

We are released and flow into each other’s cup

Our two frail vials pierced drink each other

 

 

POEM 56

Sudden Light – By Dante Gabriel Rossetti

I have been here before,

But when or how I cannot tell;

I know the grass beyond the door,

The sweet keen smell,

The sighing sound, the lights around the shore.

 

You have been mine before,

How long ago I may not know:

But just when at that swallow’s soar

Your neck turned so,

Some veil did fall, – – I knew it all of yore.

 

Has this been thus before?

And shall not thus time’s eddying flight

Still with our lives our love restore

In death’s despite,

And day and night yield one delight once more?

 

 

POEM 57

Love- By Roy Croft

I love you, not only for what you are,

But for what I am when I am with you.

 

I love you, not only for what

You have made of yourself, but for what

You are making of me.

 

I love you for the part of me

That you bring out;

 

I love you for putting your hand

Into my heaped-up heart

And passing over

All the foolish, weak things that you can’t help

Dimly seeing there, and for drawing out

Into the light all the beautiful belongings

That no one else had looked quite far enough to find.

 

I love you because you are helping me to make

Of the lumber of my life

Not a tavern but a temple;

Out of the works of my every day

Not a reproach but a song.

 

I love you

Because you have done more than any creed

Could have done to make me good,

And more than any fate to make me happy.

You have done it without a touch,

Without a word, without a sign.

You have done it by being yourself.

POEM 58

Love Lives – By John Clare

Love lives beyond

The tomb, the earth, which fades like dew.

I love the fond,

The faithful, and the true

 

Love lives in sleep,

The happiness of healthy dreams

Eve’s dews may weep,

But love delightful seems.

 

‘Tis heard in Spring

When light and sunbeams, warm and kind,

On angels’ wing

Bring love and music to the mind.

 

And where is voice,

So young, so beautiful and sweet

As nature’s choice,

Where Spring and lovers meet?

 

Love lives beyond

The tomb, the earth, the flowers, and dew.

I love the fond,

The faithful, young and true.

 

See, the mountains kiss high heaven,

And the waves clasp one another;

No sister flower could be forgiven

 

If it disdained its brother;

And the sunlight clasps the earth,

And the moonbeams kiss the sea;–

What are all these kissing’s worth,

If thou kiss not me?

 

 

POEM 59

The Passionate Shepherd To His Love – By Christopher Marlowe

Come live with me and be my love,

And we will all the pleasures prove

That valleys, groves, hills, and fields,

Woods, or steepy mountain yields.

And we will sit upon rocks,

Seeing the shepherds feed their flocks,

By shallow rivers to whose falls

Melodious birds sing madrigals.

 

And I will make thee beds of roses

And a thousand fragrant poises,

A cap of flowers, and a kirtle

Embroidered all with leaves of myrtle;

 

A gown made of the finest wool

Which from our pretty lambs we pull;

Fair lined slippers for the cold,

With buckles of the purest gold;

 

A belt of straw and ivy buds,

With coral clasps and amber studs;

And if these pleasures may thee move,

Come live with me, and be my love.

 

The shepherds’s swains shall dance and sing

For thy delight each May morning:

If these delights thy mind may move,

Then live with me and be my love.

 

 

POEM 60

SONNET 18 – By William Shakespeare

Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day?

Thou art more lovely and more temperate…

When in eternal lines to time thou grow’st

So long as men can breathe or eyes can see,

So long lives this, and this gives life to thee.

 

 

POEM 61

She Walks in Beauty – Lord Byron

She walks in beauty, like the night

Of cloudless climes and starry skies;

And all that’s best of dark and bright

Meet in her aspect and her eyes:

Thus mellow’d to that tender light

Which heaven to gaudy day denies.

 

One shade the more, one ray the less,

Had half impair’d the nameless grace

Which waves in every raven tress,

Or softly lightens o’er her face;

Where thoughts serenely sweet express

How pure, how dear their dwelling-place.

 

And on that cheek, and o’er that brow,

So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,

The smiles that win, the tints that glow,

But tell of days in goodness spent,

A mind at peace with all below,

A heart whose love is innocent!

 

POEM 62

Somewhere I Have Never Travelled – By E.E. Cummings

Somewhere i have never travelled, gladly beyond

Any experience, your eyes have their silence:

In your most frail gesture are things which enclose me,

Or which i cannot touch because they are too near

 

Your slightest look easily will unclose me

Though i have closed myself as fingers,

You open always petal by petal myself as Spring opens

(Touching skillfully, mysteriously) her first rose

 

Or if your wish be to close me, I and

My life will shut very beautifully, suddenly,

As when the heart of this flower imagines

The snow carefully everywhere descending;

 

Nothing which we are to perceive in this world equals

The power of your intense fragility: whose texture

Compels me with the colour of its countries,

Rendering death and forever with each breathing

 

(I do not know what it is about you that closes

And opens; only something in me understands

The voice of your eyes is deeper than all roses)

Nobody, not even the rain, has such small hands

 

 

POEM 63

My Love – Linda Lee Elrod

When I met you, I had no idea

How much my life was about to be changed…but then, how could I have known?

 

A love like ours happens once in a lifetime.

You were a miracle to me, the one who was everything

I had ever dreamed of, the one I thought existed only in my imagination.

 

And when you came into my life,

I realized that what I had always thought was happiness couldn’t compare to the joy

loving you brought me.

 

You are a part of everything I think and do and feel,

and with you by my side,

 

I believe that anything is possible.

(this day) gives me a chance to thank you for the miracle of you…

You are, and always will be,

The love of my life.

 

 

POEM 64

EXCERPT FROM 100 LOVE SONNETS – By Pablo Neruda

I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz,

or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.

I love you as certain dark things are to be loved, in secret,

between the shadow and the soul.

 

I love you as the plant that never blooms but carries in

itself the light of hidden flowers; thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,

risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

 

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.

I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;

so I love you because I know no other way

 

than this: Where “I” does not exist, nor “You”,

so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,

so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.

 

 

POEM 65

UNTITLED – By Christina Rossetti

What is the beginning? Love.

What the course. Love still.

What the goal. The goal is Love.

On a happy hill

Is there nothing then but Love?

Search we sky or earth

There is nothing out of Love

Hath perpetual worth;

All things flag but only Love,

All things fail and flee;

There is nothing left but Love

Worthy you and me.

 

 

POEM 66

SONNET 116 – By William Shakespeare

Let me not to the marriage of true minds

Admit impediments. Love is not love

Which alters when it alteration finds,

Or bends with the remover to remove:

O, no! It is an ever-fix’d mark,

That looks on tempests and is never shaken;

It is the star to every wandering bark,

Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.

Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks

Within his bending sickle’s compass come;

Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,

But bears it out even to the edge of doom.

If this be error and upon me prov’d,

I never writ, nor no man ever lov’d

 

POEM 67

SONNET CXVI – By William Shakespeare

Let me not to the marriage of true minds

Admit impediments. Love is not love,

Which alters when it alteration finds,

Or bends with the remover to remove.

Oh, no! it is an ever-fixed mark

That looks on tempests.. and is never shaken.

It is the star to every wandering bark

Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.

Love is not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks

Within his bending sickle’s compass come.

Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,

But bears it out.. even to the edge of doom.

If this be error and upon me proved,

I never writ, nor no man ever loved

 

 

 

POEM 68

SONNET LXIX – By Pablo Neruda

Maybe nothingness is to be without your presence,

Without you moving, slicing the noon like a blue flower, without you walking

Later through the fog and the cobbles, without the light you carry in your hand,

Golden, which maybe others will not see, which maybe no one knew was growing

Like the red beginnings of a rose.

 

In short, without your presence: without your coming

suddenly, incitingly, to know my life, gust of a rosebush, wheat of wind:

 

Since then I am because you are,

Since then you are, I am, we are, and through love I will be, you will be, we’ll be.

 

 

POEM 69

Touched by an Angel – By Maya Angelou

We, unaccustomed to courage

exiles from delight

live coiled in shells of loneliness

until love leaves its high holy temple

and comes into our sight

to liberate us into life.

Love arrives

and in its train come ecstasies

old memories of pleasure

ancient histories of pain.

Yet if we are bold,

love strikes away the chains of fear

from our souls.

We are weaned from our timidity

In the flush of love’s light

we dare be brave

And suddenly we see

that love costs all we are

and will ever be.

Yet it is only love

which sets us free.

 

 

POEM 70

‘Til Death Do Us Part – By Carol D. Bos

I hope it is decades before death parts us

But I don’t know what God has in mind

I pray that he’ll let us be happy always

But I can’t comprehend plans divine.

 

It may be that turmoil will dot our landscape

With it’s gray skies and swirling intrusion

It may be that joy will fill both our hearts

And we’ll think pain is just an illusion.

 

But I think it’s likely we’ll see some of each

As we walk on this pathway together

I promise you now: I will give all I have

From my mouth you’ll not hear the word “Never.”

 

With so much uncertainty, crime, and abuse

That exists, everywhere, all around us

More than ever we need to hold fast to the truth

Of our marriage…Life will not confound us.

 

Time together is fleeting; it is too scarce to waste

My goal is to make my life-mission

A beautiful tapestry highlighting “us”

Sewn with threads from our human condition.

 

I want to explore the full spectrum of life

Before we’re too close to its leaving

I want to embrace vast explosions of joy

That make both our hearts strong and heaving.

 

I know I will love you for all of my life

No matter the time we are given.

I’m your till death parts us-left all alone-

Until God reunites us in heaven.

 

 

POEM 71

True Love – By Author Unknown

True love is a sacred flame

That burns eternally,

And none can dim its special glow

Or change its destiny.

True love speaks in tender tones

And hears with gentle ear,

True love gives with open heart

And true love conquers fear.

True love makes no harsh demands

It neither rules nor binds,

And true love holds with gentle hands

The hearts that it entwines.

 

 

POEM 72

Modification from Walt Whitman’s Song of the Open Road

I do not offer the old smooth prizes,

But offer rough new prizes,

These are the days that must happen to you:

You shall not heap up what is called riches,

You shall scatter with lavish hand all that you earn or achieve.

However sweet the laid-up stores,

However convenient the dwellings,

You shall not remain there.

However sheltered the port,

And however calm the waters,

You shall not anchor there.

However welcome the hospitality that welcomes you

You are permitted to receive it but a little while

Afoot and lighthearted, take to the open road,

Healthy, free, the world before you,

The long brown path before you,

leading wherever you choose.

Say only to one another:

Camerado, I give you my hand!

I give you my love, more precious than money,

I give you myself before preaching or law:

Will you give me yourself?

Will you come travel with me?

Shall we stick by each other as long as we live?

 

 

POEM 73

Sound of Silence – By Raymond J. Baughan

Here in the space between us and the world

lies human meaning.

Into the vast uncertainty we call.

The echoes make our music,

sharp equations which can hold the stars,

and marvelous mythologies we trust.

This may be all we need

to lift our love against indifference and pain.

Here in the space between us and each other

lies all the future

of the fragment of the universe

 

POEM 74

Why Marriage? – By: Mari Nichols-Haining

Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person,

With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body…

 

Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me,

Who won’t hold them against me,

Who loves me when I’m unlikable,

Who sees the small child in me, and

Who looks for the divine potential of me…

 

Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night

With someone who thanks God for me,

With someone I feel blessed to hold…

 

Because marriage means opportunity

To grow in love in friendship…

 

Because marriage is a discipline

To be added to a list of achievements…

 

Because marriages do not fail, people fail

When they enter into marriage

Expecting another to make them whole…

 

Because, knowing this,

I promise myself to take full responsibility

For my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness

I create me,

I take half of the responsibility for my marriage

Together we create our marriage…

 

Because with this understanding

The possibilities are limitless.

POEM 75

A History of Love – By Diane Ackerman

Love. What a small word we use for an idea so immense and powerful it

has altered the flow of history, calmed monsters, kindled works of art,

cheered the forlorn, turned tough guys to mush, consoled the enslaved,

driven strong women mad, glorified the humble, fueled national scandals,

bankrupted robber barons, and made mincemeat of kings.

How can love’s spaciousness be conveyed in the narrow confines of one syllable?…

Love is an ancient delirium, a desire older than civilization, with taproots

stretching deep into dark and mysterious days…..

 

The heart is a living museum. In each of its galleries, no matter how narrow

or dimly lit, preserved forever like wondrous diatoms, are our moments of

loving and being liked.

 

 

POEM 76

A Marriage – By Michael Blumenthal

You are holding up a ceiling

with both arms. It is very heavy,

but you must hold it up, or else

it will fall down on you. Your arms

are tired, terribly tired,

and, as the day goes on, it feels

as if either your arms or the ceiling

will soon collapse.

 

But then,

unexpectedly,

something wonderful happens:

Someone,

a man or a woman,

walks into the room

and holds their arms up

to the ceiling beside you.

 

So you finally get

to take down your arms.

You feel the relief of respite,

the blood flowing back

to your fingers and arms.

And when your partner’s arms tire,

you hold up your own

to relieve him again.

 

And it can go on like this

for many years

without the house falling.

 

 

POEM 77

APACHE MARRIAGE BLESSING

Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be the shelter for each other.

Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be the warmth for the other.

Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before.

Go now to your dwelling place to enter into the days of your life together.

And may your days be good and long upon the earth.

 

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often

of what brought you together.

Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your

connection deserves.

 

When frustration, difficulty and fear assail your relationship

as they threaten all relationships at one time or another

remember to focus on what is right between you,

not only the part which seems wrong.

 

In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the

face of the sun in your lives  

remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, ‘the sun is still there.

 

And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together,

it will be marked by abundance and delight.

 

POEM 78

Excerpt from -The Bridge Across Forever – Richard Bach

A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks.

When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our

truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are;

we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be.

 

Each unveils the best part of the other.

No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re

safe in our own paradise.

 

Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction.

When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up,

chances are we’ve found the right person.

 

Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.

 

 

POEM 79

The Art of Marriage – Author Wilferd A. Peterson

The little things are the big things.

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.

 

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted;

the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,

it should continue through all the years.

 

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.

It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,

but in the spirit of joy.

 

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating

gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.

 

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

 

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

POEM 80

Blessing For A Marriage – James Dillet Freeman

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage

should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.

May you always need one another – not so much to fill your emptiness

as to help you to know your fullness.

 

A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not

make the mountain less, but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a

mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you.

 

May you need one another, but not out of weakness.

May you want one another, but not out of lack.

May you entice one another, but not compel one another.

May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.

May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.

May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!” and take no notice of small faults.

 

If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have

good sense enough to take the first step back.

 

May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one another’s presence

no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side,

and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.

May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.

May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.

 

 

POEM 81

Eskimo Love Song – Author Unknown

You are my husband

My feet shall run because of you

My feet dance because of you

My heart shall beat because of you

My eyes see because of you

My mind thinks because of you

And I shall love because of you.

 

 

POEM 82

Cherokee Prayer

God in heaven above

please protect the ones we love.

We honor all you created as we pledge

our hearts and lives together.

 

We honor mother-earth

and ask for our marriage to be abundant

and grow stronger through the seasons;

 

We honor fire

and ask that our union be warm

and glowing with love in our hearts;

 

We honor wind

and ask we sail though life

safe and calm as in our father’s arms;

 

We honor water

to clean and soothe our relationship

that it may never thirsts for love;

 

With all the forces of the universe you created,

we pray for harmony and true happiness as we forever grow young together.

 

Amen.

 

 

POEM 83

EXCERPT FROM “THE COUNTRY OF MARRIAGE” – By Wendell Berry

“…our life reminds me of a forest

in which there is a graceful clearing

and in that opening a house,

an orchard and garden,

comfortable shades, and flowers,

red and yellow in the sun,

a pattern made in the light

for the light to return to.

The forest is mostly dark,

its ways to be made a new

day after day,

the dark richer than the light

and more blessed,

provided we stay brave

enough to keep on going in.”

 

 

POEM 84

EXCERPT FROM “A SONG FOR HIAWATHA”

Come join us in celebration, those who love sunshine on meadow

Who love shadow of the forest, love the wind among the branches

and the palacades of pine trees, and the thunder in the mountains

whose innumerable echoes flap like eagles in their eries.

 

Listen to this song of marriage.

How, from another tribe and country came a young man,

“give me as my wife this maiden, and our hands be clasped more closely,

and our hearts be more united.

 

Thus it is, our daughters leave us, those we love and those who love us.

When a youth with flaunting feathers beckons to the fairest maiden.

 

From the sky the sun benignant looked upon them through the branches,

Saying to them, “oh, my children life is checkered shade and sunshine.”

 

The two figures man and woman Standing hand in hand together,

with their hands so clasped together that they seem in one united.

And the words thus represented are, “I see your heart within you.”

 

Sing them songs of love and longing

Now, let’s feast and be more joyous.

 

 

POEM 85

I CHING – Excerpt

When two people are at one

in their inmost hearts,

they shatter even the strength of iron or bronze.

And when two people understand each other

in their inmost hearts,

their words are sweet and strong,

like the fragrance of orchids.

 

POEM 86

Foundations of Marriage – By Regina Hill

Love, trust, and forgiveness are the foundations of marriage.

In marriage, many days will bring happiness, while other days may be sad.

But together, two hearts can overcome everything.

 

In marriage, all of the moments won’t be exciting or romantic,

and sometimes worries and anxiety will be overwhelming.

But together, two hearts that accept will find comfort together.

 

Recollections of past joys, pains, and shared feelings will be

the glue that holds everything together during even the worst

and most insecure moments.

Reaching out to each other as a friend, and becoming the confidant

and companion that the other one needs, is the true magic and beauty

of any two people together.

 

It’s inspiring in each other a dream or a feeling, and having faith in each other

and not giving up,  even when all the odds say to quit.

 

It’s allowing each other to be vulnerable, to be himself or herself,

even when the opinions or thoughts aren’t in total agreement or exactly

what you’d like them to be.

 

It’s getting involved and showing interest in each other, really listening

and being available, the way any best friend should be.

Exactly three things need to be remembered in a marriage if it is to be a

mutual bond of sharing, caring, and loving throughout life: love, trust, and forgiveness.

 

 

POEM 87

LETTERS –  By Rainer Maria Rilke

Marriage is in many ways a simplification of life, and it naturally combines

the strengths and wills of two young people so that, together, they seem to

reach farther into the future than they did before.

 

Above all, marriage is a new task and a new seriousness, – a new demand

on the strength and generosity of each partner, and a great new danger for both.

 

The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all

boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints

the other to be the guardian of their solitude, and thus they show each other the

greatest possible trust.

 

A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist,

it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their

fullest freedom and development.

But once the realisation is accepted that even between the closest people

infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side by side can grow up for them,

if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility

of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.

 

That is why this too must be the criterion for rejection or choice:

whether you are willing to stand guard over someone else’s solitude,

and whether you are able to set this same person at the gate of your own depths,

which he learns of only through what steps forth, in holiday clothing, out of the great darkness.

Life is self-transformation, and human relationships, which are an extract of life,

are the most changeable of all, they rise and fall from minute to minute,

and lovers are those for whom no moment is like any another.

 

People between whom nothing habitual ever takes place, nothing that has already existed,

but just what is new, unexpected, unprecedented.

There are such connections, which must be a very great, an almost unbearable happiness, but they can occur only between very rich beings, between those who have become,

each for his own sake, rich, calm, and concentrated; only if two worlds are wide and deep and individual can they be combined.

For the more we are, the richer everything we experience is.

And those who want to have a deep love in their lives must collect and save for it,

and gather honey.

 

 

POEM 88

I Promise – Dorothy Colgan

I promise to give you the best of myself

and to ask of you no more than you can give.

 

I promise to respect you as your own person

and to realise that your interests, desires and needs

are no less important than my own.

 

I promise to share with you my time and my attention

and to bring joy, strength and imagination to our relationship.

 

I promise to keep myself open to you,

to let you see through the window of my world into my innermost fears

and feelings, secrets and dreams.

 

I promise to grow along with you,

to be willing to face changes in order to keep our relationship alive and exciting.

 

I promise to love you in good times and in bad,

with all I have to give and all I feel inside in the only way I know how.

Completely and forever.

 

 

POEM 89

The Most Wonderful Of All Things In Life –  By Sir Hugh Walpole

The most wonderful of all things in life is the discovery of another

human being with whom one’s relationship has a growing depth,

beauty and joy as the years increase.

This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a

most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it.

It is a sort of divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life.

 

 

POEM 90

WEDDING PRAYER – Adapted . Robert Lois Stevenson (1850-1894)

Lord, behold our family and friends here assembled

We thank you for this place in which we celebrate

For the love that it unites us

For the peace accorded to this day

For the hope with which we dream

For the health, the work, the food,

And the bright skies that make our lives delightful

For our friends and family in all parts of the earth.

 

 

POEM 91

LOVE – Author Unknown

Love is a friendship that has caught fire.

It is a quiet understanding,

mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving.

 

It is loyalty through good and bad.

It settles for less than perfection,

and makes allowances for human weakness.

 

Love is content with the present.

It hopes for the future and it doesn’t brood over the past.

It’s the day-in and day-out chronicle of irritations, problems, compromises,

small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals.

 

If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack.

If you don’t have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough,

So search for it, ask God for it, and share it!

 

 

POEM 92

Love is a Great Thing – By Thomas a Kempris

Love is a great thing, yea, a great and thorough good,

By itself it makes that is heavy light;

And it bears evenly all that is uneven.

 

It carries a burden which is no burden;

it will not be kept back by anything low and mean;

it desires to be free from all wordly affections,

and not to be entangled by any outward prosperity,

or by any adversity subdued.

 

Love feels no burden, thinks nothing of trouble,

attempts what is above its strength, pleads no excuse of impossibility.

 

It is therefore able to undertake all things, and it completes many things,

and warrants them to take effect, where he who does not love would faint and lie down.

 

Though weary, it is not tired; though pressed it is not straitened;

though alarmed, it is not confounded; but as a living flame it forces

itself upwards and securely passes through all.

Love is active and sincere, courageous, patient, faithful, prudent and manly.

 

 

POEM 93

HINDU MARRIAGE POEM

You have become mine forever.

Yes, we have become partners.

I have become yours.

 

Hereafter, I cannot live without you.

Do not live without me.

Let us share the joys.

We are word and meaning, unite.

You are thought and I am sound.

 

May the nights be honey-sweet for us.

May the mornings be honey-sweet for us.

May the plants be honey-sweet for us.

May the earth be honey-sweet for us.

 

 

 

POEM 94

Marriage Joins Two People In The Circle Of Its Love – By Edmund O’Neill

Marriage is a commitment to life, the best that two people

can find and bring out in each other.

It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other

relationship can equal. It is a physical and an emotional joining

that is promised for a lifetime.

 

Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life’s

most important relationships.

A wife and a husband are each other’s best friend, confidant,

lover, teacher, listener, and critic.

And there may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing,

and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.

 

Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life.

Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger,

even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.

 

Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid.

It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences,

and new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life.

 

When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage,

they create a spirit unique unto themselves which binds them closer than

any spoken or written words.

Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people who

love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfil.

 

 

POEM 95

Never Marry But for Love – William Penn

Never marry but for love; but see that thou lovest what is lovely.

If love be not the chiefest motive, thou wilt soon grow weary of a

married state and stray from thy promise, to search out thy pleasures in

forbidden places.

 

Between a man and his wife nothing ought to rule but love

As love ought to bring them together, so it is the best way to keep them

well together.

 

A husband and wife that love and value one another show their children

that they should do so too.

Others visibly lose authority in their families by their contempt of one another,

and teach their children to be unnatural by their own examples.

 

Let not enjoyment lessen, but augment, affection; it being the basest of passions

to like when we have not, what we slight when we possess.

 

Here it is we ought to search out our pleasure, where the field is large and full of variety,

and of an enduring nature; sickness, poverty or disgrace being not able to shake it because

it is not under the moving influences of worldly contingencies.

 

Nothing can be more entire and without reserve; nothing more zealous, affectionate and sincere; Nothing more contented than such a couple, nor greater temporal felicity than to be one of them.

 

 

POEM 96

This Marriage – Ode 2667 – By Kabir Helminski

May these vows and this marriage be blessed.

May it be sweet milk, this marriage, like wine and halvah.

 

May this marriage offer fruit and shade like the date palm.

May this marriage be full of laughter, our every day a day in paradise.

 

May this marriage be a sign of compassion, a seal of happiness here and hereafter.

May this marriage have a fair face and a good name,

 

an omen as welcome as the moon in a clear blue sky.

I am out of words to describe how spirit mingles in this marriage.

 

POEM 97

This Marriage – Ode 2667 – By Kabir Helminski

May these vows and this marriage be blessed.

May it be sweet milk, this marriage, like wine and halvah.

 

May this marriage offer fruit and shade like the date palm.

May this marriage be full of laughter, our every day a day in paradise.

 

May this marriage be a sign of compassion, a seal of happiness here and hereafter.

May this marriage have a fair face and a good name,

 

an omen as welcome as the moon in a clear blue sky.

I am out of words to describe how spirit mingles in this marriage.

 

 

POEM 98

On Love – By Thomas Kempis

Love is a mighty power,

A great and complete good.

Love alone lightens every burden, and makes rough places smooth.

It bears every hardship as though it were nothing, and renders

all bitterness sweet and acceptable.

 

Nothing is sweeter than love,

Nothing stronger,

Nothing higher,

Nothing wider,

Nothing more pleasant,

Nothing fuller or better in heaven or earth; for love is born of God.

 

Love flies, runs and leaps for joy.

It is free and unrestrained.

Love knows no limits, but ardently transcends all bounds.

Love feels no burden, takes no account of toil,

attempts things beyond its strength.

 

Love sees nothing as impossible,

for it feels able to achieve all things.

It is strange and effective,

while those who lack love faint and fail.

 

Love is not fickle and sentimental,

nor is it intent on vanities.

Like a living flame and a burning torch,

it surges upward and surely surmounts every obstacle.

 

 

POEM 99

My Wedding Day – Lacey D. Karlek

I think about the time,

Not so long ago,

That when I needed a helping hand,

You where the first to know

 

I think about the memories,

The good times we’ve shared,

I think about all you’ve taught me,

And how my broken heart you always repaired

 

Now as I stand here today,

And reminisce on the past,

I think about how hard this day is for you,

How fast the years have surpassed

 

But as you walk me down the aisle,

Daddy, please don’t cry,

You know how much I love you,

And this is not good-bye

 

As I spread my wings and fly,

Look at me and know,

That you will forever be in my heart,

Even as the years grow

 

I think of today as a new beginning,

But my love for you will stay,

So walk me down the aisle Daddy,

It’s my Wedding Day.

 

 

POEM 100

PERFECT LOVE – Author Unknown

Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone.

To have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively.

But God to the Christian says, “No, not until you’re satisified and fulfilled and content with living, loved by Me alone and giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me,

to have an intensely personal and unique relationship with Me alone.

 

“I love you, My child, and until you discover that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found,

you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you.

You will never be united with another until you are united with Me exclusive of

anyone or anything else, exclusive of any other desires or belongings.

 

“I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow Me to bring it to you.

You just keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things.

Keep learning and listening to the things I tell you. You must wait.

 

“Don’t be anxious and don’t worry. Don’t look around at the things you think you want.

Just keep looking off and away up to Me, or you’ll miss what I have to show you.

 

“And then, when you’re ready, I’ll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than

any you would ever dream. You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for

you is ready, I am working this minute to have both of you ready at the same time,

and until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I’ve prepared for you,

you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me,

and this is perfect love.

 

“And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want you to see in the

flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely

the everlasting union of beauty and perfection and love that I offer you with Myself.

Know I love you. I am God Almighty, believe and be satisfied.”

 

 

POEM 101

The Hands Ceremony – Author Unknown

  Please face each other and take each other’s hands, so that you may see the gift that they are to you.

  These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.

  These are the hands that will work alongside yours as together you build your future.

 

  These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.

  These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes to you.

  These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

 

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children, the hands that will join your family as one.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it, support and encouragement to pursue your dreams, and comfort through difficult times.

 

  And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

 

 

 

  

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PRAYERS

 

 

PRAYER 1

St Francis of Assisi Prayer

Make me an instrument of peace,

Where there is hatred, let me sow love;

Where there is injury, pardon;

Where there is doubt, faith;

Where there is despair, hope;

Where there is darkness, light;

Where there is sadness, joy;

 

Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;

to be understood as to understand;

to be loved as to love. For it is in giving that we receive;

it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;

and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

 

When I give you my heart

I’ll give you a treasure that cannot be bought

In the little things we share I’ll give you gifts of beautiful thoughts

 

Whenever you’re not there, we’ll share an awareness in all that we see

Of the wonders of life that surround – From the tiniest leaf to the mightiest tree

That’s where real treasures are found.

 

We’ll cherish each sunset, each dawn, every breeze

And take time to gaze at the stars

 

The wonder of life will ever increase. As ever we follow one star –

Then soon, we will find through sharing all this

Two dreams have forged in one stream –

Sweeping to goals, united we’ll share In lives much richer by far.

 

PRAYER 2

Some advice from a generous Heart an adaptation from St Paul

Give yourself to one another completely.

Be generous in your giving and make no conditions for these gifts.

Love one another constantly and fully.

Be humble in your acceptance of your partner’s love.

Be honest with each other.

Be thankful for each other’s love and strive to develop its richness day by day.

Respect each other in every way.

Be patient with each other’s weaknesses and accept each other for what you are,

not what you wish one another to be.

Communicate constantly with one another.

Be calm, patient, tolerant and reasonable in your communication.

Be capable of good listening.

Share with one another misfortune and fortune alike.

Be compassionate and express your love for one another constantly.

Know your limitation and be honest with yourself as you are with one another.

Fuse your souls into one another and be happy for the love you have been so fortunate to find in one another.

 

 

 

PRAYER 3

Celebration – Rev. Carl Thitchener 2003

We celebrate the love that brought you to this day.

With love that deepens through many years,

may they know its meaning and its mystery

how we become truly one in sharing ourselves with one another,

and yet, remain truly two in our own uniqueness.

 

May your house be a place of happiness for all who enter it,

a place where the old and the young are renewed in each other’s company,

a place for growing, a place for music, a place for laughter.

 

And when shadows and darkness fall within its rooms,

may it still be a place of hope and strength for all who enter it,

especially for those who may be entrusted in your care.

 

May no person be alien to your compassion.

May your larger family be the family of all humankind.

 

And may those who are nearest to you and dearest to you constantly

be enriched by the beauty and the energy of your love for each other

Amen.

PRAYER 4

The Passionate Shepherd to His Love – By Christopher Marlowe

Come live with me, and be my love, and we will all the pleasures prove

That valleys, groves, hills and fields, woods, or steepy mountain yields.

 

And we will sit upon the rocks, seeing the shepherds feed their flocks

By shallow rivers, to whose falls Melodious birds sing madrigals.

 

And I will make thee beds of roses, and a thousand fragrant posies,

A cap of flowers, and a kirtle, embroidered all with leaves of myrtle.

 

A gown made of the finest wool which from our pretty lambs we pull,

Fair lined slippers for the cold, with buckles of the purest gold.

 

A belt of straw and ivy buds, with coral clasps and amber studs,

And if these pleasures may thee move, come live with me, and be my love.

 

The shepherds’ swains shall dance and sing for thy delight each May-morning;

If these delights thy mind may move, then live with me, and be my love.

 

 

PRAYER 5

The Weight of Love *author’s translation of 1 Cor 13: 4-7

I once was asked concerning love versus hate

Why does it seem that hate is so great?

While hate is a very strong emotion too

Nothing can equal love that is true

 

The weight of hate is very heavy to bear

While it seems like love is lighter than air

Accounts of hate make a big news headline

While actions of love you must look hard to find

But when you consider that love is patient, kind,

 

Envieth not, not pompous, not puffed up, not rude,

Seeketh not her own, slow to anger, thinks no evil,

Rejoices not in wrong doing, but rejoices in the truth,

Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,

Endures all things, and never fails*

 

You soon learn that the density of love is so much,

Although the scales be heaped with a great volume of hate

It’s catapulted by a mere measure of love’s touch,

Love strengthens the bearer so one feels not its weight

 

PRAYER 6

Heaven Holds You – Tammy L Magner

On this day of marriage

You are watching from above

Along with all of us you are

Witnessing our love

 

This day is very beautiful

As we both have said, “I do”.

But something is surely missing

Without the warmth and presence

Of you

 

Above heaven holds you

In safeness from the pain

Inside your soul

You strongly hold

Love from us you’ve gained

 

 

 

 

READINGS FROM BOOKS AND NOVELS

 

 

From “The Irrational Season” by Madeleine L’Engle

But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made.

Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they

hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take

It is indeed a fearful gamble, because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.

 

To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take

If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think,

a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom,

and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession,

but participation

It takes a lifetime to learn another person

When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected.

 

 

 

From “Gift From The Sea” by Anne Morrow Lindbergh

When you love someone, you do not love them all the time,

in exactly the same way, from moment to moment.

It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to.

And yet this is exactly what most of us demand.

We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships.

 

We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb.

We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity;

when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom,

in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the

same pattern.

 

  The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting,

  not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in

  nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now.

  Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now,

  within their limits – islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited

  and abandoned by the tides.

 

 

 

 

An excerpt from “Plato’s Symposium”

Humans have never understood the power of Love, for if they had they would surely have built noble temples and altars and offered solemn sacrifices; but this is not done, and most certainly ought to be done, since Love is our best friend, our helper, and the healer of the ills which prevent us from being happy.

 

To understand the power of Love, we must understand that our original human nature was not like it is now, but different. Human beings each had two sets of arms, two sets of legs, and two faces looking in opposite directions.

There were three sexes then: one comprised of two men called the children of the Sun, one made of two women called the children of the Earth, and a third made of a man and a woman, called the children of the Moon.

Due to the power and might of these original humans, the Gods began to fear that their reign might be threatened.

They sought for a way to end the humans’ insolence without destroying them.

 

It was at this point that Zeus divided the humans in half.

After the division the two parts of each desiring their other half, came together, and throwing their arms about one another, entwined in mutual embraces, longing to grow into one.

So ancient is the desire of one another which is implanted in us, reuniting our original nature, making one of two, and healing the state of humankind.

 

  Each of us when separated, having one side only, is but the indenture of a person, and we are always looking for our other half.

  Those whose original nature lies with the children of the Sun are men who are drawn to other men, those from the children of the Earth are women who love other women, and those from the children of the Moon are men and women drawn to one another.

 

  And when one of us meets our other half, we are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy, and would not be out of the other’s sight even for a moment.

 

  We pass our whole lives together, desiring that we should be melted into one, to spend our lives as one person instead of two, and so that after our death there will be one departed soulinstead of two; this is the very expression of our ancient need.

  And the reason is that human nature was originally one and we were a whole, and the desire and pursuit of the whole is called Love.

 

 

An excerpt from “A Farewell to Arms” by Ernest Hemingway

  At night, there was the feeling that we had come home, feeling no longer alone,

  waking in the night to find the other one there, and not gone away;

  all other things were unreal.

  

  We slept when we were tired and if we woke the other one woke too so one was not alone.

  Often a man wishes to be alone and a woman wishes to be alone too and if they love each

  other they are jealous of that in each other, but I can truly say we never felt that.

 

  We could feel alone when we were together, alone against the others.

  We were never lonely and never afraid when we were together.

 

 

 

A Wedding Reading from Adam Bede, by George Eliot

  It was Dinah who spoke first.

  ‘Adam,’ she said, ‘it is the Divine Will., My soul is so knit with yours that it is but a

  divided life I live without you. And this moment, now you are with me, and I feel that

  our hearts are filled with the same love, I have a fullness of strength to bear and do

  our heavenly Father’s will, that I had lost before.’

 

  Adam paused and looked into her sincere loving eyes.

  ‘Then we’ll never part any more, Dinah, till death parts us.’

  And they kissed each other with a deep joy.

 

  What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life

  to strengthen each other in all labour, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to

  each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the

  moment of the last parting?

 

 

 

 

From “The Hungering Dark” – Frederick Buechner

Matrimony is called holy, because this brave and fateful promise of a man and a woman,

to love and honor and serve each other through thick and thin,

looks beyond itself to more

fateful promises still, and speaks mightily of what human life at its most human and most

alive and most holy must always be.

 

Every wedding is a dream, and every word that is spoken there means more than it says,

and every gesture – the clasping of hands, the giving ofrings – is rich with mystery.

 

And so we hope with every bride and groom, that the love they bear one another,

and the joy they take in one another, may help them grow in love for this whole world

where their final joy lies.

 

 

Sooner or Later – Anonymous

Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines,

and romance in the movies.

We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives.

 

For love is the creator of our favorite memories, and the foundation of our fondest dreams.

Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places.

 

And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy,

is the greatest treasure of all — one known only by those who love.

 

 

 

EXCERPT FROM TUESDAYS WITH MORRIE    By Mitch Albom

“Still,” Morrie said, “there are a few rules I know to be true about love andmarriage: If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike.

 

“And the biggest one of those values, Mitch?”

Yes?

“Your belief in the importance of your marriage.”

He sniffed, then closed his eyes for a moment.

“Personally,” he sighed, his eyes still closed, “I think marriage is a very important thing to do, and you’re missing a lot if you don’t try it.”

He ended the subject by quoting a poem he believed in like a prayer: “Love each other or perish.”

 

 

1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-8a

Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude.

Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends.

 

 

ECCLESIASTES 4:9-12

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their toil.  

For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when

he falls and has not another to lift him up. 

 

Again, if two lie together, they are warm; but how can one be warm alone?  

And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him.

 

 

 

GENESIS 1:26-31

Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness,

and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air,

over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that

move along the ground.”  

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him;

male and female he created them.  

 

God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number;

fill the earth and subdue it.

Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living

creature that moves on the ground.”  

 

Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the

whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food.  

 

And to all the beasts of the earth and all the birds of the air and all the creatures

that move on the ground–everything that has the breath of life in it

I give every green plant for food.”

And it was so.  

God saw all that he had made, and it was very good.

And there was evening, and there was morning–the sixth day.

 

Genesis 2:28-24

The Lord God said: “It is not good for the man to be alone.

I will make a suitable partner for him.”

So the Lord God formed out of the ground various wild animals and various birds of the air,

and he brought them to the man to see what he would call them;

whatever the man called each of them would be its name.

The man gave names to all the cattle, all the birds of the air, and all the wild animals;

but none proved to be the suitable partner for the man.

 

So the Lord God cast a deep sleep on the man, and while he was asleep,

he took out one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.

The Lord God then built up into a woman the rib that he had taken from the man.

When he brought her to the man, the man said:

 

“This one, at last, is bone of my bones

and flesh of my flesh;

This one shall be called ‘woman,’

For out of ‘her man’ this one has been taken.”

 

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body.

 

 

JEREMIAH 31:31-34

Behold, the days come, saith the LORD, that I will make a new covenant

with the house of Israel, and with the house of Judah:  

Not according to the covenant that I made with their fathers in the day that

 

I took them by the hand to bring them out of the land of Egypt;

which my covenant they brake, although I was an husband unto them,

saith the LORD:  But this shall be the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel;

After those days, saith the LORD, I will put my law in their inward parts,

and write it in their hearts; and will be their God, and they shall be my people.  

 

And they shall teach no more every man his neighbour,

and every man his brother, saying, Know the LORD: for they shall all know me,

from the least of them unto the greatest of them,

saith the LORD: for I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more.

 

 

COLOSSIANS 3:12-14

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, and patience, forbearing one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

 

And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.

 

 

Mark 10:6-9

From the beginning of creation God made them male and female.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;

and they shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.

What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

 

 

PSALM 128:1-4

Blessed is every one that feareth the Lord; that walketh in his ways.

For thou shalt eat the labor of thine hands; happy shalt thou be,

and it shall be well with thee.

Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house,

thy children like olive plants round about thy table.

Behold, that thus shall the man be blessed that feareth the Lord.

 

 

THE SEVEN BLESSINGS From “The New Jewish Wedding”- By Anita Diamant

“We acknowledge the Unity of all within the sovereignty of God,

expressing our appreciation for this wine, symbol and aid of our rejoicing.

 

We acknowledge the Unity of all within the sovereignty of God,

realizing that each separate moment and every distinct object points to and

shares in this oneness.

 

We acknowledge the Unity of all within the sovereignty of God, recognizing and

appreciating the blessing of being human.

 

We acknowledge the Unity of all within the sovereignty of God, realizing the

special gift of awareness that permits us to perceive this unity and the wonder

we experience as a man and a woman joined to live together.

 

May rejoicing resound throughout the world as the homeless are given homes,

persecution and oppression cease, and all people learn to live in peace with each

other and in harmony with their environment.

 

From the Divine, source of all energy, we call forth an abundance of love

to envelop this couple. May they be for each other lovers and friends,

and may their love partake of the same innocence, purity, and sense of

discovery that we imagine the first couple to have experienced.

 

We acknowledge the Unity of all within the sovereignty of God,

and we highlight today joy and gladness, bridegroom and bride, delight and cheer,

love and harmony, peace and companionship.

May we all witness the day when the dominant sounds through the world will be

these sounds of happiness, the voices of lovers, the sounds of feasting and singing.

 

Praised is love; blessed be this marriage. May the bride and bridegroom rejoice together.”

 

THE JERUSALEM BIBLE, SONG OF SONGS 2:8-10, 14, 16a; 8:6-7a

For love is as strong as death.

I hear my Beloved. See how he comes

leaping on the mountains,

bounding over the hills.

My Beloved is like a gazelle,

like a young stag.

 

See where he stands behind our wall.

He looks in at the window,

he peers through the lattice.

 

My Beloved lifts up his voice, he says to me,

“Come then, my love,

my lovely, come.

 

“My dove, hiding in the clefts of the rock,

in the coverts of the cliff,

show me your face,

let me hear your voice;

for your voice is sweet

and your face is beautiful.”

 

My Beloved is mine and I am his.

He said to me:

‘Set me like a seal on your heart,

For love is strong as Death,

jealousy relentless as Sheol.

The flash of it is a flash of fir,

a flame of the Lord himself.’

 

Love no flood can quench,

no torrents drown.

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